December 03, 2015
Alexia Isaak
I’ve talked a number of times about love. There have been blogs about being a choice, love can equal letting go. Use the power of love to attract things into your life with the law of attraction. All of these things are meant to add perspectives on your powerful emotion. I’ve thought of another lately. It’s easy to acknowledge that love is so important to you, but why doesn’t it always work? Why do we give up on love and let our most valuable relationships go. the reason is simple. Love is a choice more than a feeling. yes, we have feelings of love, but what about when you get angry and separate from the one you love? What if this separation grows overtime so you no longer remember why you loved each other in the first place. The feeling is gone, and nothing remains. It’s investigating.
Then,, look at very old couples who have stayed together. They have something different. Their love is no longer a high, romantic feeling, but on that is profound and deep like a river rather than being shallow and noisy like a brook. If we look at the whole picture, it’s the love the old people have that we really long for and it takes a lifetime of choosing to love someone that makes the difference.
So how do you choose to love someone?
- Choose to be honest. When you’re honest with another you help that person see outside of him or herself.
- Choose to forgive. When you forgive, you remove a block from your relationship that opens a path for you both to move on.
- Choose to support. (acts of service) When you help a loved one through a trauma or through a favor, you’re telling that person you love him or her.
- Choose to touch. When you hug or kiss a person with care it’s a physical display of love. Many people hear love primarily though touch.
- Choose to spend quality time. When you spend time with someone, that time can improve spirits, days, and self-esteem. Think of our senior friends who crave some attention.
- Choose to share words of affirmation. Choosing not to be shy with someone boosts the bond in your relationship and the other’s sense of self-worth. I’ll caveat this with say good things with taste to people you know. I’m not necessarily referring to catcalls.
- Choose to give gifts. Giving time, food, jewelry, massages or anything you feel another person would like communicates being appreciated.
- Choose to do things for and serve your loved one. Even if you don’t want to, if you choose to help your friend in need, you deposit love into your love bank that grows over time.
I adore the book The Five Love Languages. Many of the points are based on that book. So often we look at choosing love from our point of view. You have so many choices when it comes to choosing the love you give. Love out of instinct and put love into action. I hope this glance into the receiver’s point of view may help grow your love today because you can.
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It s a very simple premise—loving yourself. I ve been criticized for being too simplistic, and I have found that the simple things are usually the most profound.
Alexia Isaak
You are so right! For some reason this comment was tagged as spam and I’m only now seeing it. We can get overcomplicated trying to exceed our realm of knowledge so much so that we do forget the simple things that really make life wonderful. Thanks for reading!