Last time we looked at a couple of reasons people keep each other down when making decisions in their careers. One being jealousy to see others succeed and the second is the pursuit of a personal agenda. Neither are good reasons, and I don't think there are any good reasons not to help each other out when a group or friends are trying to advance in some way. A couple of other reasons people tear each other down are:
3. Power, Prestige and Purse. A lot of people will trample on their neighbor if they think it will help them achieve one of the three P's of Power, Prestige or Purse. This theory of satisfaction has even been studied and documented by German sociologist, Max Weber. People want to be powerful and perceived as such. They like the idea of having monetary wealth and the prestige that comes with it. Keeping their eyes on those things can blind folks to the symphonic harmony of the entire team and the greater good. It's tempting to achieve power, prestige and purse, but I suggest doing it through hard work the organic way rather than executing political tactics.
4. Win-Lose personality. Another way people keep others down is when they have a Win-Lose personality. Stephen R. Covey talks about this approach to life in his book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Covey supports the WIn-Win approach, but recognizes there are many who ony feel good when they win and their counterpart loses. They've exerted power over another for whatever reason, and it builds up a false sense of value.
My mentor, Rhonda Shasteen, always encourages us to follow Mary Kay's personal philosophy, "Do the right thing." It may not always be the easy choice, but with a little self-awareness and desire, it can be done. If it's a matter of self-improvement, each one of us can grow an attention to our human nature of following selfish tendencies. If you need to, find a sounding board for career help in your personal support system to bounce your thoughts and motivations on in order to help you make the best decisions possible to build each other up.