October 31, 2013
Alexia Isaak
Everywhere I turn, I hear the importance of surrendering. Each time I hear it, I interpret, "Give up." I don't want o give up. I've always prided myself for surviving and being a fighter. Am I
supposed to stop now, and give everything up?
What I've noticed is that I keep hearing the same message, and I keep ignoring it. I decided it's time for me to wake up and listen! So I began to think about what it means to surrender. Instead of giving up, I tried to rationalize not surrendering because it was the same thing as compromising, but it is not.
Compromising has elements of giving up in it. Compromising feels like you're settling for less. It's important to compromise in your relationship because it's unhealthy to demand your way all the time. The old saying goes, "You win some. you lose some."
Compromising also means you are mature enough to know when you can choose actions of love and do something you don't necessarily want to but do it out of love and respect for another. Compromising is a loving and powerful tool to have in your relationship toolbox.
So how is surrendering different from giving up or compromising? Now, when I hear the word surrender, I change it to accept. I have to accept certain things and choose to be okay with it even if I don't like it sometimes. It doesn't mean I quit praying or desiring. I can accept what is in my present moment and be in "the now." The sooner I choose to accept, the sooner I can release the negative emotion of desperation attached to not having something I want in this moment. Feeling desperate about something only drives it farther away, so it is in your best interest to accept things as they are and get busy putting out positive emotional frequencies.
Surrendering to what is will serve you in the long run because it clears your emotional bandwidth to focus on positive actions. Some days and some things are easier to surrender than others, and sometimes I have to accept things over and over again before it feels natural. I encourage you to surrender to the things that you need to today because you can!