I'll be honest that I've been confused for a while about the difference between settling and releasing resistance. On one hand, we are told not to settle for less than what we want, but we are also told to release resistance. I feel resistance towards settling, and I don't want to give up or give in. I've been thinking about this for a while and recently wrote about the difference between surrendering and compromising.
The more I thought about it, I realized that settling means accepting less than what you want. It is giving up, folding, sacrificing, and not loving yourself. Settling is giving up your standards or quitting instead of dealing with something. Settling is not compromise, choosing love or being rigid.
Releasing resistance means letting go of fear and rigidity. I can release resistance to things happening for me in a method that I choose. I must allow things to happen as they need and want to. I can hold on to the love and the vision and let go of the path to the outcome. Releasing resistance and rigidity doesn't mean you lose your standards. It is allowing yourself to be vulnerable to a new way and to faith. Being vulnerable scares us because it requires us to opening ourselves up to harm and things unknown.
When I looked at releasing my resistance and fear of experiencing life and love in a new way, I saw that I held on to all that fear in an effort to protect myself. In order to try to force life and love to happen to me in the way that I wanted it to happen, I was only hurting myself and driving love farther away from my life. Rigidity only creates isolation, not protection.
Resistance means allowing things to happen to you differently. Maybe, you start communicating instead of clamming up or quitting. Maybe you look at ways to compromise instead of fighting with the ego's neediness.
I've had to work on releasing resistance on my perspective about how things are supposed to happen. I am, as we all are, still a work in progress. Now, I'm experimenting with letting go of my resistance to how things happen and have faith that people, places and circumstances will work in the perfect way at the perfect time.
Fortunately, seeing it is the first step, Now, I will meditate and pray with affirmations on this Epiphany.
This is my prayer today.
God, please take my heart, heal it, and free it to love. I have faith you are not going to punish me for past mistakes if I choose to release resistance and become vulnerable. I have been living in fear of punishment, and in turn punishing myself. I see that You will not punish be because You are love, I am love and You live in me. I am willing to release resistance to letting go of my fear and open my heart to a new way to love today. And so it is. Amen.
I encourage you to release resistance to any blocks you know you have or discover because you can!