In a recent conversation, my friend shared with me something she had read about anger being your trusted friend because it is always honest with you. The statement got me to thinking, and while I agree that anger is always honest with you, I think it is very possible to suppress your feelings of anger. I believe there is a big difference between being angry and losing your temper.
As I have studied the law of attraction and The Secret, I have learned that what you project you attract back into your life. Other thought leaders have noted that when you engage in a thought or activity you create pathways to repeat that activity in the future. This can be applied to something good like being generous, but it can also apply to the negative actions like losing your temper.
In light of this understanding, I have made a tremendous effort to make new choices and create new pathways to control my emotions andhave learned to respond to life rather than react. I am not 100% successful at this, but I do my best every day. Through this practice, I have learned that I can control my temper, and I want to more every day.
I determined that anger is the emotion that triggers you losing your temper along with impatience and disrespect among others. I am angry when it comes to people suffering in the world and when I see injustice around me. I felt angry when my health failed me in the past because it was completely out of my control. I am sure people who suffer natural disasters are angry they lost all of their belongings. Many of these things make people angry, but do not necessarily cause you to lose your temper.
I’ve also experiencee that when you are engaged in a trauma or disaster, you are focused on survival and anger takes a little time to register and resonate within someone. The point I am trying to make is that anger is the emotion that is your guide to take appropriate action. Losing your temper is a reaction to some external catalyst. Anger is internal and you should pay attention to what it is telling you. Your temper is something that can always remain in your control.
I will strive to listen to my feelings of anger and control my temper, and I hope you will too, because you can!