September 19, 2013
Alexia Isaak
In a recent conversation, my friend shared with me something she had read about anger being your trusted friend because it is always honest with you. The statement got me to thinking, and while I agree that anger is always honest with you, I think it is very possible to suppress your feelings of anger. I believe there is a big difference between being angry and losing your temper.
As I have studied the law of attraction and The Secret, I have learned that what you project you attract back into your life. Other thought leaders have noted that when you engage in a thought or activity you create pathways to repeat that activity in the future. This can be applied to something good like being generous, but it can also apply to the negative actions like losing your temper.
In light of this understanding, I have made a tremendous effort to make new choices and create new pathways to control my emotions andhave learned to respond to life rather than react. I am not 100% successful at this, but I do my best every day. Through this practice, I have learned that I can control my temper, and I want to more every day.
I determined that anger is the emotion that triggers you losing your temper along with impatience and disrespect among others. I am angry when it comes to people suffering in the world and when I see injustice around me. I felt angry when my health failed me in the past because it was completely out of my control. I am sure people who suffer natural disasters are angry they lost all of their belongings. Many of these things make people angry, but do not necessarily cause you to lose your temper.
I’ve also experiencee that when you are engaged in a trauma or disaster, you are focused on survival and anger takes a little time to register and resonate within someone. The point I am trying to make is that anger is the emotion that is your guide to take appropriate action. Losing your temper is a reaction to some external catalyst. Anger is internal and you should pay attention to what it is telling you. Your temper is something that can always remain in your control.
I will strive to listen to my feelings of anger and control my temper, and I hope you will too, because you can!
Robert
While helpful, nothing was said about what to do with the anger that …..well some of us(me) seem to hold on to. The younger version of me was told”take that anger, stuff it down in your gut, in a little box and hide it from all whom you know” that’s who I am, I trust my anger,my gut, but never my heart, unless I truly trust you(love my wife and kids, but yes they feel the tension) what then? Not to mention a life changing event in my life? Sober 4 years and hap. P. Er than ever? While this did help , do you think anger is the same with all? Or is anger different with us all?
Alexia Isaak
I think there are different levels of anger. men tend to struggle with anger issues more than women. I don’t carry a lot of anger, but I’ve been in relationships with people who do. i know the tension you are talking about. The tough thing about anger is that it does fester and the only way to deal with deep anger is to identify the root of that anger. What happened in your childhood? were you made fun of? Were you abused verbally, physically or sexually? Were you abandoned by a parent? Do you feel that God did something to you or allowed something to happen to you? Did someone cheat on you? there are many things that cause a person to be angry. When you identify the cause of this anger, it’s important to work through the process of forgiveness. You must forgive the people that hurt you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation, it just means you choose to release the anger you hold toward another person. hurt me 15 years ago. When I recall how I was hurt, those feelings can stir up again, but now the forgiveness comes about much easier than it did in the beginning. If you really want to work through your anger issues, and I recommend you do for yourself and those who love you, I highly recommend attending the Life Enrichment Bootcamp. It’s a life changing experience that will address these very real, deep issues. I wish you luck and welcome additional conversation.