Last week I met a man at my train station who looked homeless. He had a bike stuffed with goods. He wore a bright orange vest like construction workers wear for safety. His legs were wrapped up in ace bandages. I was glancing at him curious about his situation when he stepped out and said, "Do you know why I have my legs wrapped up?"
"No, I don't"
"It's to keep the snakes from biting me, "he said.
"What do you do to be around snakes?"
"Where do you live?" I asked, digging for more.
"I live at the lake," he said.
"White Rock Lake. I came in to get some beer," he said.
"Why do you live at the lake?"
"Here," he said, pulled out his dog tags and began telling me about his deployment. Then, before I could respond, he leaned down and tapped his left eye with his finger. "You see this? I have a fake eye because of them. You're talking to a blind man."
"You saw me," I said. "I have other friends who deployed many times, and they're making it. People all over the world have experienced tragedy and manage to use a positive attitude to continue on with life. You can do it too," I told him.
Fortunately, my train arrived, and I hopped on at the perfect time to end our brief conversation. As I sat on the train, I thought about why this man would take this attitude.
As a result, I asked a friend who had been deployed, "Meaning no disrespect to our service men because I'm grateful for your service, why would a soldier take this attitude?"
"He said, it's unfortunate, but people like that tend to be that way in the first place. It wasn't the service that made him that way."
Upon hearing his answer, I felt relief and concluded that he used the service as an excuse to cop out of living life outside of his service. In fact, your challenges can mold you into a better person based on your attitude.
It got me thinking of all the different excuses we have for not doing things we should do because we're afraid. Do you use your health, living or work situation to cop out of life? It's hard, and I don't deny that. There are good days and bad days. What I propose is to make the best of where you and take steps to choose happiness.
Some of this works, and some of it does not. But, regardless, I hope you face the challenges of your life at any level because you can!