My parents recently celebrated their 37th wedding anniversary, which is certainly an accomplishment in these days. I'm so proud of them and appreciate the example they've given to my brother and me. Over the years, my mom, has shared tips for a positive relationship. As I grow older, I see their eminent value and thought I'd share some of mom's wisdom with you.
The first tip is not to go to bed angry or upset or unresolved. This isn't new information for most of us, and there's ton's of articles out there about why this is a good rule to observe. Not only have I heard it, but I've also seen it in action. A natural part of relationships with friends and family is to have the occasional argument. People's feelings get hurt because we're imperfect, fallible human beings.
Any time my mom and I have had an argument; she will never rest until we've settled things out. Sometimes you just want to stay mad, and it's irritating to have to talk things out. However bothersome it is to your emotional state, not giving way to an emotional reaction over the long-term is the right thing to do.
Since I've seen my mother practice this my entire life, it's ingrained in me to practice it myself. I've never been so grateful to have her example in my life to help me have more positive relationships.
Go and talk about it because you can!