If it’s meant to be, it will happen. My mentor, Rhonda Shasteen, gave me those words of advice a long time ago. They continue to have new meaning for me the older I get and have more life experiences. I always understood the language, but learning to let go of trying to force things into happening has been a much longer process.
Flash back to about fifteen years ago. I spent a lot of my life thinking I could will things into being, when in reality, the best things that happened in my life happened effortlessly. That didn’t stop me from setting my focus on something and applying will and desire. Sometimes powering through worked, but most of the time it didn’t. In the process of trying to will things into being, I learned a lot about discipline and focus. Those are good qualities. On the flip side, it was easy to isolate myself and not see the forest for the tree in front of me. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.
Fast forward to only ten years ago. I became much more compliant– almost too much so. I was a people pleaser and figured I could get my way by winning everyone over with my giving. What I learned was that people liked the giving, but didn’t respect me. So, I still didn’t get my way all the time. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.
Fast forward to about 3 years ago. I learned about The Secret, the power of a positive attitude, and the law of attraction. I learned what it meant to say what I think and began to practice that every day. Saying what I really think helped me to be honest with myself, grow my confidence and learn to lead my actions from a sincere place of love. If it’s meant to be, it will happen.
Fast forward to today. I still have moments where I put a fifty-pound grip on some desire I want to see manifested in my life. Fortunately, through the power of meditation, I’ve been able to develop greater self-awareness and now recognize the presence of the fifty-pound grip. That awareness helps me make the choice to let it go and tell myself if it’s meant to be, it will happen.
After this long process of learning to let go, I finally saw what it means to feel like a stronger person for making that choice rather than trying to force something into being. It takes strength to have the presence of mind to open your eyes and see when you need to let go. Once I do let go, I find a great peace comes over me as I find the faith to trust that if it’s meant to be, it will happen.
This is an ongoing journey, and I continue to learn and grow in this area of life. I hope you will learn to trust what is meant to be with me today because you can!