Are you a worrywart? I know we all have times of feeling troubled and worrying about life's circumstances. People get sick unexpectedly, the economy crumbles, and relationships struggle for a number of reason. It's normal to worry about those things. Excessive worrying will be damaging to you and others around you.
When I think about how to stop worrying, I realize how many unnecessary problems we create for ourselves by choosing to worry about things that are out of our control. If you want to stop worrying, you can focus on changing your thinking about the things you do control. As my mentor, Rhonda Shasteen, taught me, you are in control of only three things, your thoughts, words and actions. Everything else is in someone else's control.
You are worrying for a few reasons:
You are making assumptions. This is an issue with your thoughts. You are convinced that X is happening because of Y. Someone is out to get you. You always have these problems, and the reasons go on and on.
You said something that got you in trouble. We've all put our foot in our mouth as sometime. Then we have to suffer the aftermath of the damage we caused. Sometimes its consequences are greater than others.
You did something that got you into trouble. Maybe you had a car accident that was your fault. You may have disobeyed any rule or law. You made a bad investment.
You got lazy. You didn't try hard enough or do your best, now you have to deal with results that don't meet your expectation. It's pretty safe to think that when you think you're doing enough, you must do even more to reach those goals.
You are trying to control something that is not in your control. Remember you can not control other people's thoughts, words or actions. These are not your actions and maybe not even another persons. We don't control the out come of elections, just out vote. We can't control certain health issues.
You are dealing with the results of a poor decision. Now you have to dig yourself out of a hole. We've all been there, and although we don't enter situations trying to dig a hole, it happens. People make bad investments, take the wrong job, or get involved with the wrong crowd.
If you can accept the fault in the things you did that are in your control and release those that aren't you can learn to stop worrying. That doesn't mean you won't suffer the loss of a loved one or hurt when a loved one lets you down. You don't have to choose to consume yourself with negative thoughts. We all need time to process information. I find I need processing time to work through accepting the things that aren't in my control. It does take time, but you can learn how to stop worrying.