Bad things happen to good people. Life isn't fair and it isn't easy. There are thousands of clichéd statements that help us understand that things can be tough sometimes. Life gets hard from any number of things, and it is most often things that are out of our control or a result of our own bad decisions.
Regardless of how you enter into tough times, it is so important to try to stay positive as you work through your situation in effort to have some sort of balance.
I've had some tough things go on in my life, and the temptation to get into a negative rut is strong. However, looking at my challenges compared to some others I know and the poor people in Japan trying to get through the tragedy of the tsunami, I was able to put things into a realistic perspective to come to an understanding. I may feel a little discomforted by my challenges, but overall, I am truly blessed.
Here are a few things I like to think about when tempted to engage in negativity.
1. Focus on what you DO have. Think positive. I have my health, which I haven't always had. I have friends and loved ones who are challenged daily by poor health situations that remind me of the blessing of my good health. I have a safe place to live. I have food to eat. I'm surrounded by people who love me, although my brother likes to pretend he doesn't and give me a hard time sometimes.
2. Surround yourself with positive energy people. Whether it be friends or loved ones, try to engage in activities with people who boost you up. Those people care for you and tell you they love you and support you. They offer encouragement. They focus on the future, the positive, and the solution rather than the things in the past and what can't be changed.
3. Exercise. Endorphins. Endorphins. Endorphins. There's no better drug. Half the battle is getting to the gym or making yourself start to exercise, but you always feel better if you do. I tell myself that I know I'll feel good afterwards when I try to talk myself out of exercising. Sometimes it helps just to get the work out clothes on.
Those are a few little tips to brighten your day on the self-help journey. It can also help to remember that you are never dealt anything you cannot handle. Sometimes things feel like too much to bear, but you can. I want to encourage you that all challenges lead to something greater than the challenge, so be patient and try to persevere one day at a time. You can!