It’s likely you’ve had a patience problem since you were a little kid asking, “Are we there yet?” and making the driver crazy. Few people are inherently patient, and those that are, drive us impatient people crazy because they won’t just get on with it. They make us wait to get things done right or just don’t like feeling rushed.
I grew up in the restaurant business where speed and rushing were virtues. I remember my parents complaining about some servers being too slow, so I learned I needed to be fast at my work! That’s great until you’re so fast you make mistakes.
Over time, I’ve learned there are many ares of life people where people struggle with patience. Here are a few.
Patience for Completion.
This is the most obvious. I can’t wait for the car ride to end, to be done with school, for that event to be over.
Patience for the Arrival.
I can’t wait for that trip, the wedding, the first day at a new job, Christmas, my birthday (until after 30 😉
Patience for Possessions.
I wan’t wait to get a new car, new place to live, new clothes, that ring (ladies).
Patience with People.
I can’t wait to have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, to meet so-and-so.
Patience to Develop Personal Skill.
I can’t wait until I can dance that way, run that far, cook like that, have that certification, reach that goal.
Patience for Another’s Skill.
I can’t believe he/she still can’t _____________. Why can’t he/she just do what I say?
It’s likely out of all these things you struggle with some patience. I know I do. I have fought for many years, but haven’t always been honest with myself. I’ve struggled with Completion, People and Possessions. I made many excuses to compromise what I really want in the future for what I can have now. I may have done lesser work and told myself I just did it fast without taking the time to go check my work again. I have been impatient to have boyfriends and compromised the kind of guy I really want for the guy that just fits the bill right now. I also gave up the item I really wanted and was saving to buy for one I didn’t like as much but could have now. Impatience results in many lessons and wasted time and money.
Why do we get so impatient that we lie to ourselves and compromise? I ask myself why. I know now it’s because I struggle with patience. It feels like I chose not to gamble for what I really want out of fear of losing, but think of what I have lost! That’s not even something to be afraid of. Once I recognized the patience and fear problems, I could take steps to correct them. That didn’t mean it was easy. I had to develop and ongoing awareness and continue to make the new decision over and over to be patient until it became a habit.