I've written many posts that touch on being honest with yourself so that you can be true to yourself. Sometimes being true to yourself means you will have to make a new choice. The key to it all is self-awareness.
We believe we know ourselves perfectly inside and out because we live in our bodies. We observe ourselves, work to correct bad habits and recover from bad decisions. It is an exercise that lasts a lifetime.
Although we believe we know ourselves, it often takes an outside person to identify something for you. A year or so ago, someone pegged me for lying to myself. I chose to believe what I wanted to believe, regardless of circumstances, all in all setting me up for disappointment. Yes, I was disappointed in the end when I finally accepted the truth. That experience spun me on a journey of reflecting on personal honesty.
Then someone pegged me for making my life choices out of fear. Do you turn away from something when it gets too hard? When you get knocked down, do you get back up again. Do you always choose the safe path even if it isn't what you really want? DO you allow yourself to plateau and never raise the bar?
These are many things I noticed myself doing once I recognized it for myself. I spent days reconsidering all my decisions as I made them and was shocked to find that even tiny decisions came from a place of fear. I learned that if fear ruled my life, then I would always feel safe. If I was safe, then I would be happy.
I might think I'm happy, but in truth I'd be lying to myself about not reaching for what I want, for not stretching myself and raising the bar to go outside my comfort zone and face my fears.
If you're shying away from goals, procrastinating, faltering on your decisions, sacrificing yourself and mistaking your fear for a bad gut feeling? All of these are signs you are deciding out of fear.
It's scary. Facing fear takes courage, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Taking the first step is the hardest part. Just like the revelation about honesty, I can spend my time recognizing and facing my fears until it is no longer an issue.
Take a moment to reconsider the source of your choices. Be honest with yourself and face your fears today because you can!