Today’s society praises being relaxed and going with the flow. We’re told it’s much better to be easy-going than rigid or a Type-A personality that has a hard time moving away from the plan or routine. I’ve been pretty Type-A most of my life. I’m neat, clean, organized, keep my commitments, but I found myself frustrated with people who weren’t like me. I discovered I was constantly engaging with people whose steady answer was maybe. The underlying message was that they were waiting for a better offer before making a commitment. If they weren’t holding off on commitment, they were doing something worse. They were committing and later, backing out of their commitments.
First of all, it hurt because I took things personally, which I shouldn’t do. Then I wondered why so many people were acting this way. I knew I either had to adjust my thinking or go on feeling frustrated. In the end, I ended up accepting that people thought they were just being easy-going, although I knew I found those people unreliable. As a result, I’ve learned to let go and become more easy-going myself. I’m able to roll with the punches more, while still choosing to be reliable and keep my commitments. I’ve been able to understand the different lines of thinking that correlate with different generations.
It takes a little discipline, but if you can balance your relaxed attitude with allow others to trustingly rely upon you, then you’ll develop the relationships around you.