You're a driver, right? I try to be because that means I'm in control. I love feeling in control. It makes me feel secure and on top of things when I'm conducting the way life ebbs and flows. Then something generally comes up to remind me I'm not in control.

When I was 21, I was completely in control until I woke up one morning and a blood vessel that popped in my head from a ruptured AVM. I was no longer in control for at least two years of recovery from a craniotomy. Another time, I was riding high on a promotion and new responsibilities at my job, but it was 2009. The economy had just fallen out. I was in control until I was laid off. Life changed in an instant both times. 

Each time, I was forced to make a directional shift that I wasn't intending to make, and each time life led me to a new, rich direction that I wouldn't have otherwise experienced. By having the rug ripped out from under me, I was being reminded that I wasn't in control. As I stop to consider that, I'm reminded that I'm actually in control of very little. My mentor, Rhonda Shasteen, once told me the most amazing proverb. She told me that you are only in control of three things; your thoughts, your words, and your actions. Someone else is in control of everything else.

The more I reflect on her wisdom, the more I understand its truth. I'm often reminded how little control I have, so I try to stop and think about being the passenger. I'm not suggesting complacency, but suggesting letting things happen. As life happens, trust the internal nudge and use the sounding boards in your life to help you make wise decisions. Having faith to allow life to happen can release so much good. It's amazing what can be when we stop trying to perform surgery on our lives.

Good luck experiencing life to the fullest. You can!