We all want life to go smoothly without a hitch. But, why then, when life is coasting, is drama just around the corner. Do we seek out drama subconsciously? Do we invite drama into our lives? I was listening to Eckhart Tolle‘s The Power of Now, and he made a great statement that the drama makes us feel alive. The ego feels empowered and validated through drama and suffering. Another wise teacher, Andy Stanley, says that decision patterns create pathways which can lead to disaster in our futures. Sometimes the results are irreversible, and no one wants it to be too late to change. Rhonda Byrne says in The Secret, that we attract the drama in our lives through the Law of Attraction.
So, where do we find conflict in life? People tend to struggle with major areas like health, finances, relationships, and work. Then how do we make decisions to avoid drama in the future?
3 Views on Eliminating Drama in Life
1) From Eckhart Tolle’s perspective, when you experience drama, you should become The Watcher. Observe your ego from the outside. Doing so brings you into the present and extracts emotional reactions. As The Watcher you can choose to respond, not react to your circumstances. In turn, you are opting out of drama.
2) From Andy Stanley’s approach, you should create new habits and start making new decisions to take you in the direction you want to go. This takes a lot of self-observation and awareness to know what new decisions you need to make. Then, you need to have the discipline to make them. For some reason, even if we don’t find success by making the same decision over and over, it’s hard to make a new decision with an unpredictable outcome. Be sure to ask yourself, what the wise thing to do is? Asking this question will give you a lot of clarity.
3) According to Rhonda Byrne, if you think and feel drama out of fear and addiction to it, then you will attract it into your life. You will guarantee the presence of drama in your life. Eliminating the drama requires self-awareness to slow your thinking process and become cognizant of the thoughts flashing through your minds. I catch myself thinking, “It would be so much easier if_____.” Whatever goes in the blank is a cop out and really something I’m just afraid to do myself or don’t want to see happen. With all that emotion, I see how I am attracting health and relationship problems into my life. If I’m aware, I can make a conscious effort to change my thinking and attract healthier circumstances into life.
Now that we’ve thought through the drama, how we bring it into our lives and how we can avoid or change it. I ask myself, is a life free of drama boring? It may be. Maybe my ego needs the drama to feel alive. Maybe I’m so accustomed to having some drama in my life that things feel strange without it. Maybe I have an addiction to relationship or an addiction to spending. Maybe I create my own problems subconsciously or out of a lack of personal discipline. Maybe I’m making bad decisions because I lack confidence and need things or a relationship to feel better about myself. Maybe I have a lot of pride and value my worth on what other people think of me. Maybe any or all of these things are the case. We can spend our lives correcting them.
When I question, “What is happiness?” I know it’s a life free of fear and addiction. It’s a life full of health, free of addiction to drama in relationships, it is free of addiction to spending or having things. It is a life where I am capable of providing for myself. I hope we can all create pleasant, boring, drama-free lives because you can! Are you addicted to drama? How do you see it?