I know we all make our best effort to be cheerful and perky each day. I sure do, but realistically, I'm human and feel grumpy sometimes. When I'm feeling cranky or being critical of others and myself. I'll get snarky and snippy and will stop enjoying hanging out with me. Since different and unwelcome moods are a natural part of life, I've become very interested in ways to tame my inner mean girl when she does appear. Here are a few tricks I've come across that are helpful to process those grumpy feelings, and move on.
1. Say, "You Are That. Tat Vam Asi"- Criticizing others can take its toll on other people and especially on you. When you notice yourself being critical of others, stop and tell yourself, "You are that." This technique also applies for the beauty you see, so if you see beautiful flowers, tell yourself that you are the flowers, too. You have the capacity to be all the things you find beautiful and repulsive. It's a good reality check to jolt you out of a critical moment.
2. Recognize the voice. Acknowledge it. Say, "I hear what you're saying, and we're done." The feelings just want attention; you don't have to act out on them.
3. Draw your inner mean self. I drew a number of mean girls. I drew my Critical Cathy, Impatient Patsy, and Controlling Kristi. When you add a cartoon to them, it helps to diffuse them and to draw them into your minds your mind's eye when you need to.
4. Write it out. If you journal about your emotions, it gives them the attention they need so you can process them and move on. I find the power of journaling helps me to gel my thoughts, and it acts as a therapy to acknowledge and expose what you are really thinking and feeling.
5. Give yourself 3 minutes. Set a timer to allow yourself to go down the negative rabbit hole, and then be done with it.
I know we don't enjoy feeling critical, grumpy, or angry, especially for no reason at all. When I feel that way, I just want to move past it as quickly as possible because I just want to be happy now. Internal conflict and negative feelings are a natural part of life. I encourage you to learn how to process them for yourself because you can!
Daily Meditation: "Tat Vam Asi."